Pedestrians, Tour Guides, and Fellow Travelers

In the silence I discover the meaning of common phrases that didn't fully make sense before. Today I was giving some advice to a friend (I seem to be the love guru lately) about finding happiness in yourself when suddenly a light bulb went off and everything actually connected. We always say you can't expect others to love you if you don't love yourself but I find this to be true with simple pleasures and everyday happiness. "He makes me happy" he said. I said "no he doesn't... he adds to your happiness." I realize this could be a little over-analytical but when you take apart the meaning of the words you say you will realize they aren't always what you meant to say. So, if you hop from one relationship to another without ever finding happiness in yourself chances are you that you will affix all your happiness on the shoulders of your lover. I can't imagine that is healthy. What happens when the lover passes on or decides to dump you? In my journey I'm forcing myself to find happiness in my solitude. I know this will make me stronger and I can be a functional partner in my relationships. The people we meet are merely pedestrians, tour guides, and fellow travelers on this road. I wont make the mistake of forcing someone else to carry me again. xoxoxo